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counseling adult children

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self esteem

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check my web page

admin — Thu, 03 May 2012 04:08:35 +0000

PLease check my webpage for more information if you need it. I do not accept or read comments on this blog. Thank you for reading the blog. DK

responses

admin — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 15:14:02 +0000

Thank you for your comments. I don’t, however, respond to any of them and move them all to trash, no offense intended. Some comments are not legible. Take care. DK

religious acceptance

admin — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 01:58:04 +0000

It a wonderful thing to accept the validity of religions other than your own. People tend to be condescending of faiths they do not believe in or know much about. Will we ever see the day when we do longer … Continue reading →

counseling for troubled relationships

admin — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 00:52:29 +0000

Many people have very unsatisfactory interactions in their relationships. It takes time to change them, so people must be willing to come to counseling regularly until they have made significant improvement. Unfortunately, some couples come a few times and things … Continue reading →

counseling for addictive behaviors

admin — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 01:21:00 +0000

People who have addictions have to admit to their addictions before counseling can help them. Otherwise, counselors are knocking on a bolted shut door. Once someone admits that there is excessive and obsessive behavior, then coming to counseling can help that … Continue reading →

warmth and kindness

admin — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 17:04:37 +0000

I believe that therapists should be warm and provide an accepting atmosphere. No one wants to come to therapy to feel blamed. People who come to counseling need to be accepted before they can change for the better.

Kindness towards all others is very important and I try to impart that to my clients. Holding grudges or being chronically angry is very bad for the psyche and accomplishes nothing. We can choose how we are going to feel long term towards someone else. Initially the immediate feeling may point one in the right direction for clarity but it is not good to malinger in bad feelings indefinitely.

assertion

admin — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 16:45:58 +0000

I have taught assertion training for many years and now do it in my office with individual clients.
It is amazing to me how one’s life can become more energized and powerful when that person chooses words to be firm but polite instead of passive or aggressive. Assertion is a life saver but it takes practice, perseverance, and a willingness to accept the disapproval of those who do not want to hear an authentic response.

courage to come to counseling

admin — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 16:39:01 +0000

Many people hesitate to come to see a counselor because they fear they will hear things about themselves that are critical and blaming. The opposite is usually the case. Situations are discussed with the behaviors of all concerned, not just pointing fingers at one person. Blaming is not an issue; learning how to interact in more effective ways are examined, for all the parties involved. Those who try to figure out how to have a less angry or argumentative relationship are to be admired, even though their past behavior may not have been helpful or kind. Counseling helps people see more clearly if they are open to doing so.